Nothing holds folks back from tapping into their full potential and becoming the best version of themselves more than fear. Fear shatters dreams, prevents you from achieving major breakthroughs in life and is the root cause as to why so many end up going to their grave with all of their dreams, hopes and wishes still unachieved.
Fear plays an interesting role in our lives. How dare we let it motivate us, how dare we let it into our decision making, our livelihoods, our relationships. It holds us back and keeps us from chasing our dreams. Fear itself, of course, is normal. When you set out to pursue your deepest desires and live a bold life, it’s completely natural for fear to creep in and scare you from time to time. What makes all the difference as to whether your fears paralyze you or catapult you to new heights depends on your reaction and response to the fear.
It took me years to realize how I was letting this one emotion control me. I had a solid job, a nice house and a good life. There in lies the problem… I was comfortable. But inside of me there was the desire for adventure and this sense of there was something more for me in the world. A lot of people want to live in a world that exists before they have made the decisions they have made, I was headed down that path quickly. People wake up, eat a hurried breakfast, rush to a job they hate, eat lunch at their desk, fight traffic home, eat dinner while watching the newest popular TV show and go to bed. I think it is impossible to completely civilize a hunter or adventurer. There is a primal-ness that is inside all of us and I had to let mine out.
This ate away at me constantly that I was living this cookie cutter, domesticated lifestyle. Now, I have been chasing deer and ducks in my home state just like any other Texan growing up. Deer and dove season was a ritual here. However, one evening I was sitting in front of my computer fed up with the routine and decide I had had enough. I started researching international hunting and dangerous big game. Something about the mountain lion kept pulling me in, I kept coming back to it. It was just affordable enough to justify and just risky enough to be a gateway hunt for me.
I cleaned out what little savings I had the next day and sent a deposit to a gentleman in Colorado. Now this isn’t about my experience on that hunt, because I wasn’t successful. $5500 and no cat to show for it, but all that fear and anxiety I had about stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something was gone. There is a primitive nature in all of us that I was able to let loose in those mountains. That was the gateway I needed to overcome my fears and open up.
Having the courage to say yes to any new adventure has opened up a new world to me and allowed me to live a life some people only dream of. Courage is the ability to step through fear. Choosing to act, despite fear of the unknown. Saying yes to things introduces me to new experiences, untamed waters and untouched mountainsides. Adventures I had only read about in books from Hemmingway and Ruarke are now my stories to tell as well.
Our days are numbered folks. As you look to the future it is time to stop saying things like:
When I get married…
When my kids grow up…
When I win the lottery…
When I retire…
If we felt about death as we do about sleep, all fear would cease to exist. People go to sleep every night, knowing that they will wake up the next morning. We should all feel the same way about our lives.
No one plans on dying today. I have shit to do, goals to accomplish. I don’t have time to die, but it could happen. Today could be my final day on this earth… I am laying in my death bed and looking back on where did it all go. What did I do with all of those precious days? A bunch of reports and conference calls for some business owner so they can live out their dreams? Nope. Not this guy. Not me. Not my life. I don’t live to pay bills or for a pay check. I live for adventure and new experiences.
Start saying yes to the unknown. Start conquering your fears. Start conquering your life.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” – Marianne Williamson